Will I Ever Find Love Again?
You are in the prime of your life! You want to experience the fun of a relationship, create memories, and dance in the intimacy of companionship, right? But — you are afraid.
The Narcissist has done a number on you. You have flashbacks of their abuse from baiting, love bombing, bread crumbing, manipulating, and Gaslighting. Not only do you not trust others, you don’t trust your own judgment. You might even doubt your own sanity. No wonder you have PTSD when it comes to relationships.
However, we are human and ultimately we all want to love and be loved. Herein lies the problem.
In order to love, you must be vulnerable. Brene Brown champions the value of vulnerability, tying it directly to success in all things. But you have learned that vulnerability has cost you mentally, physically and spiritually, and left you with devastating memories of the abuse you suffered at the hand of the Narcissist. Now, love for you, post narcissistic exposure, has fear attached to it. One cannot love and be afraid at the same time; it is not possible.
This is where so many get stuck. You might become super critical on dates, or judgmental, and talk yourself out of a perfectly good person, all in an effort to protect yourself. The wound is fresh. Even if your Narcissistic relationship ended five years ago, the flashbacks, the dreams, the…