What Happens When You Break the Rules with the Narcissist and Become Enraged? The 4 Punishments

The unspoken rules in a relationship with a narcissist become very clear when they are broken. You may wonder who makes these rules. Let’s be clear, the emotional climate, temperature, and tempo in a narcissistic relationship are determined and set by the narc.

One of the rules you will discover early on is who owns the emotional range. If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you will already be groomed for your emotional expressions to be tapped down. Your role is to be pleasant, acquiesce, pleasing, and even demure. Therefore, this is your normal — walking around with a poker face while the narcissist flares, flays, rumbles, yells, and berates.

However self-disciplined and self-effacing you may be, there will come a day when your human self will wake up and you will blow a gasket.

The inequity of the exchange and transactions in a relationship with a narcissist is so one-sided that you will begin to lose your identity and sense of self. Then, that one thing, a snide remark, a rude comment, a blatant disregard for your well-being will become the last straw. Here are the 4 things you will be met with when you utilize your human right to expression.