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The Drama Roles of the Narcissist
Sometimes we must hit rock bottom to wake up. It happened for me when a toxic boyfriend’s behavior was so confusing and abusive that I left broken, and contacted a relationship coach. As luck or serendipity would have it, I heard about her from colleagues in the coaching field and knew she, if anyone, could help me understand what I just went through.
She knew a little about my relationship so it was a quick entry into the dynamics of something I was blind to. I asked her if what I experienced had a name. Growing up with a Narcissistic and Borderline personality disordered parent gave me a certain amount of psychological knowledge and education, but this completely stumped me.
After a pause she said: “Have you heard of the Drama Triangle?”
I had not. As she talked I googled the Drama Triangle and a new world opened. This behavioral dynamic consists of three roles the toxic or narcissist plays in an effort to maintain or gain control and power. It will surely if nothing else exhaust and confuse you. The three roles are the Victim, the Rescuer and the Persecutor.
This information had such a profound effect on my life, I became certified to train and explain this behavioral dynamic.
