Survival Guide for-Your Mom is a Narcissist

If your mom is a Narcissist, you were programmed to be a slave to her feelings. On the other hand, your feelings were determined to be worthless. We were taught how to selflessly give. In fact we were groomed to believe that wanting attention or love for ourselves was selfish. Guilt was the belt, used to spank our need and desire for love.

Because the mother figure molded our emotional operating system, we slid into adulthood with mistrust, low self-esteem, and the skill of people pleasing — which came in handy for all the other narcissists we attracted.

We are love seeking missiles, all of us. We survive and thrive through the food of love. But the bread crumbs of love doled out from our narc parent is not enough to sustain us, so we are perpetually starved children running around in adult bodies.

Like an addict, we scan the environment for the next fix to unsuccessfully fill the gaping hole that is the unloved child who lives within us.

We are not inept. We are not vacant. We are not simple minded. We are wounded.

Here are some strategies for your survival kit if you are an adult child of a narcissistic mom (this info can be applied if your narc parent was a dad).