Stop the Generational Loop of Toxic Relationships

If you find yourself to be a magnet for narcissists, chances are your childhood groomed you to be the perfect match for the narc. If the person in power as a child, a parent, made it clear that you were to be seen and not heard, reinforced you to be a people pleaser, and disregarded your emotional needs, you were a set up to attract in a person who will take your goodness, and abuse the power they wield. Unfortunately if the above childhood scenario rings a familiar bell, this will be your ‘normal’. The question is how to stop the loop of these toxic entanglements?

1. Awareness. Acknowledge this family dysfunctional dynamic, understand the role you were assigned, and decide to heal and change. Part of the healing process might be setting up healthy boundaries with the parent(s) that used and abused.

2. Role Assignments. You can choose not to enable, rescue and people please. Be aware that this takes a quantum leap in self- awareness. No one does anything without a payoff. Your payoff for these behaviors was reinforced in childhood and your payoff was the false belief that your worth was based on these behaviors. That illusion, once shattered, is the beginning of the end of the old you, and the beginning of your healthy future. Often this takes coaching or therapy. You cannot just give something up with a replacement, so learning new…