Still Dream about the Narcissist?

Of all the articles and videos about the dynamics of Narcissists today, I have yet to find one that addresses the truth that you don’t completely hate the Narcissist. Although the relationship ended, the Narc may show up in your dreams, even erotic ones!

You may have a flash memory of a tender time you two shared. You remember the times when they held you tenderly, the way they kissed, and the laughter. After all Narcissists are known for their charisma and charm. But you want to hate them for the way you were treated. You have wounds from this person. You are not sure you can love again.

The truth is no one is completely bad, wrong or terrible. Everyone has a few qualities that are memorable and endearing. So what do you do with this?

We are not taught in this culture that we can hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. So, if we do there is a conflict. The bridge to reconciling these thoughts lies in the reality that you were in love. Love does not die. It can change form. Boundaries can be built around it, but love lives on. You may be in midst of the process of grieving over the loss of the relationship and all that went with it, like future dreams.

Watch my video here about how love, fond memories and grief can live together.