Shadow Proof against Narcissists

The biggest question I had after my narc relationship crashed was why? Why did I pick him? What was it about me that was attracted to someone who was, in retrospect, toxic?

On one of many sleepless and teary nights, I made a decision. It was time to take a deep dive. Many moons ago I’d read “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” by Debbie Ford. It was fun reading about our shadow sides and how to integrate them into our consciousness and bring them forward, so they no longer had managerial control over our choices. In order do this, I would need to get out of hypothetical mode, face hard truths and get real with myself. Yikes!

While it was a rough ride looking truthfully at the murky, abandoned and less than ideal aspects of me, I highly recommend the following exercise to Shadow Proof against Narcissists and other gnarly people.

Make a commitment to discover your inner self. There are aspects that you have not yet become acquainted with. It is perfectly normal for this to sound scary. The shadow parts of self (unclaimed and unknown personality aspects) hide in our unconscious, out of reach until we’re brave enough to step into self-awareness, bring them forward, integrate into wholeness and heal.

Our ego is skilled at keeping them hidden until we take the wheel. We abandoned these parts of us because they were…