Narcissists Rock Bottom Break Up Leaves Part of You Behind

When you hit rock bottom with the toxic narcissistic relationship, you felt alone, afraid, exhausted, confused, and completely depleted of self-esteem, hope, and joy. At the bottom you could not find the light. The tunnel did not offer a blueprint to get out of the darkness.

Today, you are somewhat removed from the first day of hitting the bottom. It may be one week, one month, one year, or many years, but there is one thing that is for sure. There are remnants within you where the wound lives. Part of you is still left behind at rock bottom.

These pieces of you are the chains that continue to hold you back from a life you dream of. They are also, emotional beacons that will show you the topography of the identity you cobbled together in your attempt to heal and move forward. Your identity is most likely a safe, watered down version of all you hoped for. Your dream life has been replaced with bland safety. No one taught you how to turn the pain into joy. Spiritual teachers may give you sound bites, like visualization and manifest mantras. What does that mean? Since these words do not actually help, we are left feeling like we failed again. We failed in relationship and now we failed in turning our pain into a masterpiece.