Narcissist Tool Kit

There are circumstances that make it difficult or impossible to go ‘no contact’ with the Narcissist in your life. If the Narc is your parent, sibling, boss, co-worker or Ex who you share children with, you may find yourself needing to interact with them. And when you do spend time with them, the price you pay is high in terms of emotional depletion, anxiety, fear, depression and anger. Here is a set of tools for your tool kit if you must keep the Narcissist relationship alive for whatever reason.

1. Boundary Setting: Choose when you feel strong enough to converse with this person. You don’t always need to answer the phone. You can filter calls by listening to the voice mail, getting a heads up about the purpose of the call so you can prepare your answers.

2. Do not share your vulnerabilities. They can be used against you. For instance if you tell your boss or co- worker that you freeze up when giving a speech or report, they can share this with others, exaggerate the message and call you weak or poorly skilled to others. Keep your conversations non- emotional, non- personal and non- vulnerable. I know this is hard for us empaths and sensitives. But trust me you will be saving yourself a whole lot of pain.

3. Keep clear, consistent and concise rules. For example if you share kids with your Narcissistic Ex, keep the visitation schedule predictable and…