How to Identify a Narcissist on a First Date

You are sitting across the table from a date you find super attractive. You are feeling a vibe. But, something is holding you back and nagging at you. You have been traumatized by a toxic narcissistic relationship in the past and are gun-shy when it comes to getting involved again. It is not that you don’t want a relationship, you just don’t want one that will decimate your self-esteem, and your self-respect, and kill your joy. You are finally back on your feet, albeit tired, fearful, and, truth be told, cynical.

The remnants of the suffering linger in the shadow of your hopeful smile. The question nags and disrupts your concentration. Are they a narcissist? How can you tell? You don’t want to be jaded, but you also don’t want to get caught in the dysfunction that steals your peace and happiness, ever again.

Here are a few telltale signs you might be sitting in front of a Narcissist:

1. They seem preoccupied with the waiter/waitress. Making lingering eye contact, following them as they walk away, asking their first name, and using it often.

Do a gut check: Does this make you feel small, tired, anxious, or angry? This is not how you should feel on a first date.

2. They are not even a little curious about you. They are preoccupied with themselves, telling their…