Are you A Sitting Duck for A Love Bomber?

Girls who were raised without fathers, or with distant, estranged, or disengaged dads, have a deep craving and a gaping wound. This empty space is a set up for addictions, especially to men. Looking for love in all the wrong places, they have this deep seated fear that they are unlovable. So what happens when a charismatic, charming, handsome (in her eyes) smooth talker who lavishes her with compliments enters her life?

She rushes in, eyes closed, lapping in the luxury of such adoration. She cannot believe (operative words) that someone could ‘love’ her this much. Deep down she really does not believe it because she does not believe she is loveable, evidenced by her father, the primary male figure in her life with whom she measured her value.

Her only goal is to keep this miraculous attention and affection coming. But, instead of love, she is experiencing classic Love Bombing. And the love bomber has a completely different set of motives. He is setting her up, true to his Narcissistic ways, to fall for him so he can get his way, and have a never- ending supply of adoration back at him; and accept what is to come.

For her it is a genuine exchange of affection and attention. For him, it is a strategy. (Change genders in this story to fit your life experience). He is setting the stage to manipulate, blame, and project all…