5 Losses You Suffered from a Narcissistic Relationship

When you end a relationship with a Narcissist, whether it be a parent, lover, boss, coworker or relative, you lose more than the relationship.

Because the Narcissist thrives on control through vindictiveness, revenge and retaliation, your motivation to survive strips away your autonomy, logic, and reasoning in order to keep the peace.

After the dust settles and there is space after the loss to reflect on the collateral damage, you may discover that some of your most powerful characteristics have been compromised in order to stay out of the line of fire.

Here are the five things you most likely lost. They can be recovered, but healing must take place first. These five parts of you are:

1. Hope — Hope is the elixir of desire. When hope is crushed, one is left with hopelessness. If your Narcissist was a lover, you may not believe that you will find love again. If it was a boss, you may wonder if you can function in a workplace setting. Doubt replaces hope.

2. Confidence — You will second guess your ability to make good choices. You will wonder why you chose to get in partnership with the Narcissist in the first place. You will wonder ‘What is wrong with me?’ Uncertainty replaces confidence.