3 Questions to Answer Why Narcissists are Attracted to You

As we move through the steps of recovering from relationship abuse, the key individual in the process is YOU. This step is crucial in order to craft and construct a newer, improved version of yourself. This process will create an Evolutionary Leap in your life and the life of all those who know you.

To get started ask yourself three questions:

What is it about you that attracted the Narcissist to you?

What is it about you that made you attracted to a Narcissist?

What dynamic in your life, upbringing, and childhood developed a personal characteristic that was a match for a Narcissist?

Let’s start with the third question first, which will then easily answer the first two questions.

In order to connect the dots here, look at your personal family dynamic and the role you played in the family. As an example, if your mother was a narcissist, you would have been groomed to be the perfect match or accompaniment to her narcissistic personality. She would have wanted you to please her (becoming a people pleaser). She would have wanted you to put her needs first (denying your own needs and focusing on others before you). It is in this way, then, that you would have attracted, energetically, dynamically, and mentally a…